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Today I come across another study challenging conventional wisdom and a very popular belief, unburdening oneself is healthy. This study paradoxically says that bottling up your feelings is better. Navtej Kohli Interest Blog features the complete report:

Debunking the popular notion that unburdening oneself might be normal or even healthy, the study suggests that those who remain silent might be better off than those who vent their feelings!

In a finding that goes against conventional wisdom, a new study contends that it is better to keep your feelings bottled up - particularly after experiencing a traumatic event like a terrorist attack.

The study, by Mark Seery of the University of Buffalo, focused on people’s responses to the terrorist attacks of Sep 11, 2001.

The findings have important implications for expectations of how people should respond in the face of a collective trauma affecting a community or a nation, said Seery.

He said the results should not be interpreted to mean that expressing one’s thoughts and feelings is harmful or that if someone wants to express their emotions they should not do so.

“It’s important to remember that not everyone copes with events in the same way, and in the immediate aftermath of a collective trauma, it is perfectly healthy to not want to express one’s thoughts and feelings,” he noted.

“We found… people who chose not to express were better off than people who did choose to express,” Seery said.

Seery pointed out that immediately after last year’s tragic shootings at Virginia Tech University there were many “talking head” psychiatrists in the media describing how important it is to get all the students expressing their feelings.

“Instead, we should be telling people there is likely nothing wrong if they do not want to express their thoughts and feelings after experiencing a collective trauma.

“In fact, they can cope quite successfully and, according to our results, are likely to be better off than someone who does want to express his or her feelings.”

Hmmm…Sounds Interesting!

I think bottling up feelings to an extent is normal, but there has to be a point of saturation. As for myself, I really cant dissimulate my feelings for long! What About  you?

Navtej Kohli adds another beautiful feather in the Inspiration category. Navtej Kohli Interest blog is a myriad compilation of inspirational quotes and stories, a reminder for those who forgot the meaning of life.

Here is an inspirational story by Mirabai Chrin

A Very Special Meal

Once there was a very poor and devoted woman who always prayed to the Glory of God, asking very little, if anything for herself. But one thought, one desire continued to recur and finally she asked: petitioning the Lord, that if it were possible she would love to prepare a special meal and have God share at her table. And God, in His Love for this goodly woman, said He would indeed come the next day and share a meal.

Filled with ecstasy, the woman went out the following morning with her meager purse and purchased such delicacies that she felt would please the Lord.

Returning home, she prepared a banquet and waited patiently for her most honored guest. Soon there was a knock on the door, and when she opened it, there stood an old beggar asking for something to eat. Being a woman of God, she could not turn the beggar away, so she invited him in to partake of her table. The beggar felt as if he was in a dream - such a feast set before him. He finished all the food, thanked his hostess and left.

The woman was only slightly disheartened, she gathered up her purse, her coat, and hurried back to town to get more food for her special guest. Her funds were less now and so the food was not quite so elaborate. Nonetheless, she lovingly prepared another meal and sat to await the arrival of the Almighty.

A few hours went by and there was a loud knock on the door. This time it was an old gypsy woman with no teeth, who was deaf, who spoke quite loudly and was, rather rudely, insisting that any true believer in the Lord would not deny her something to eat.

Though the woman had no more money with which to buy more supplies, she invited the woman in and offered her a seat at the table. The gypsy ate everything, did not even thank the woman and left without closing the door.

By now it was beginning to get dark both inside and out. The woman’s faith was strong, so that, though somewhat distraught, she did not give up, but rather, looked around her humble house to see if there was anything she could sell in order to buy more food to set before the Lord.

She hurried to town with a little silver cup that had been in her family for several generations, but she was willing to part with it for the great honor that God was going to bestow on her - the sharing of a meal.

Late in the night she rushed home to prepare yet a third meal. She waited and waited until, once more, there was a knock on the door. Holding her breath, she slowly opened the door to find yet another poor man in the guise of a wandering monk, in search of a meal.

Again, she offered hospitality, with as much grace as she could muster in her disappointment. This man also ate all that was set on the table and left after blessing the woman for her kindness. So discouraged and dismayed was she that all she could do was nod slightly, in acknowledgment of the thanks.

Now it was too late, with no way to buy any more food and no more money with which to buy it. She got down on her knees, weeping such heart-broken tears. She asked God what she had done wrong. Why had God not come to share at the table as He had promised?

And God, in all His Divine Compassion and Mercy, lifted the woman off her knees, and holding her close to His Heart, said, “My child, I enjoyed your hospitality so much that I came three times!”

Hello friends!

I’m back again with my another favorite recipe on Navtej Kohli Blog:

PREP TIME: 20 Min
COOK TIME: 2 Hrs
READY IN: 2 Hrs 20 Min
SERVES: 8

INGREDIENTS

* 1 (2 to 3 pound) whole chicken
* 2 (14.5 ounce) cans chicken broth
* 2 medium yellow onions, quartered
* 1 bunch celery with leaves, cut into pieces
* 1 (16 ounce) package baby carrots
* salt and ground black pepper to taste
* 1/2 teaspoon garlic salt, or to taste
* 5 eggs
* 1/2 cup water
* 1 teaspoon salt
* 3 cups all-purpose flour
* 1/2 teaspoon parsley flakes

DIRECTIONS

1. Place chicken in a stock pot, and add enough water to cover. Pour in the chicken broth, and add celery and onions. Season with salt, pepper and garlic salt. Bring to a boil, and cook for about 1 hour to get a good broth.
2. When the chicken is cooked through and tender, remove it to a platter and let sit until it is cool enough to handle. Strain broth, and discard celery and onions. Return the broth to the stock pot. Remove chicken meat from the bones, chop or tear into pieces, then return it to the pot also. Bring the broth to a boil, and add carrots.
3. In a medium bowl, stir together the eggs, water and salt. Gradually add flour until the dough is firm enough to form a ball. You may need more or less flour. Pat the dough out on a flat plate. Using a butter knife, cut slices of dough off the edge of the plate so they are about 2 to 3 inches long. Allow them to fall directly into the boiling broth.
4. Once the carrots are tender, the soup is ready. Sprinkle with parsley flakes and serve.

So enjoy the meal!

And of course if you too have some delectable recipes to share, feel free to post in your comments

Ten Commandments of Life by Adonea on Navtej Kohli Blog:

FIRST - Fully and unconditionally love yourself. Recognize your Divinity. Honor yourself.

SECOND - Unconditionally love and accept others. Recognize their Divinity and honor them.

THIRD - Take responsibility for your actions. You always have a choice; how you feel, act or what you say. Act, don’t react.

FOURTH - Be a Master of Divine expression. Live the Universal Laws of Love, Peace, Truth.

FIFTH - You create your life (by your choices, feelings and actions). Live in joy.

SIXTH - Let go and allow (let God). Listen to and follow, unconditionally, your small quiet voice; your spirit (God).

SEVENTH - Be thankful and humble. Give thanks for what you have and receive. Be grateful.

EIGHT - Your sustenance comes from inside you (God). Trust. You will always be provided for.

NINTH - Your body is the temple of your soul. Nurture and care for yourself.

TENTH - Live in the present moment. Life can only be experienced now.

If you’re above forty and looking for an ideal life parter, chances are your bride may be significantly younger to you.

Well, it not my personal opinion but the findings of the new US research. Navtej Kohli Interest blog features the entire report:

A new research suggests the older a man, the greater the likelihood that his bride will be significantly younger - whether that man is wealthy and educated or not.

“If you look at guys who do marry, the poor guys marry down in age just as much as the rich guys do,” quoted Paula England, a Stanford University sociologist and co-author of the study.

“That was kind of surprising to us,” she added.

Men in their 40s tend to marry women who average seven years younger, and men in their 50s are marrying brides who average 11 years younger, according to England’s research. Interestingly, men in the 60s tend to marry women who are 13 years younger.

However, in first marriages, men are typically a couple years older than women, but the older men are when they marry, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s a first or a second marriage, the more years they marry down, the research highlighted.

England and research partner Elizabeth McClintock of Stanford said that the male ideal of beauty is found in women in their early 20s, and that ideal remains fixed for men no matter that they themselves are growing older.

“Women may be a little more indifferent to age than men are because they are not judging people as much on looks,” she added.

Do you like banana split? Ask me, I just drool over it….yummm!!!

Here is a simple Banana split recipe or say your ticket to toothsome delight.

Ingredients:
* 1 banana, split lengthwise
* 1 scoop each vanilla, chocolate and strawberry ice cream
* chocolate syrup
* marshmallow creme
* strawberry syrup
* whipped cream
* chopped nuts
* maraschino cherries

Preparation:
Place banana slices against sides of long, narrow, shallow dish*. Place scoops of ice cream in a row between banana slices. Squirt chocolate syrup on vanilla and strawberry on strawberry. Spoon marshmallow creme over chocolate. Top each mound with whipped cream. Sprinkle with nuts and top each with a cherry.

* These can be found in your local grocery store. When having a big dinner party, I also use my glass banana split dishes for placing butter around the table.

Keep checking back…more recipes coming shortly on Navtej Kohli blog!